Find You’ve Reached a Plateau with Growth? This Might Be Why
One thing I’ve been really noticing lately is how so much personal growth is framed as a one person thing — you do your own work, with yourself — or as a two person thing. You see a therapist, you work with a coach, you work on your relationships with others. And while there’s certainly value in those kinds of containers, there’s one key missing: groups.
I’m not talking about group therapy, per se. But rather, having a place you can go and simply be, with other people who get it. Because the truth is, we’re communal animals — and there’s some kinds of nourishment you just can’t get by any means other than being part of a group. Practicing feeling safe, seen, soothed, and secure in a group helps shift your internal working model so you have more capacity and ability to experience this in your everyday relationships.
A place to settle. To relax. To come alive. Do you have a space like that?
Most of us don’t. Sometimes you might be lucky enough for one to arise around a friend group, or your bar trivia team, or your sewing circle. But spaces that are intentionally designed to hold the kind of active, interdependent resourcing, where people come ready not simply to receive teaching, or healing, or being seen, but are also ready to come with their own medicine for others? That’s much harder to find.
I used to run a group like this, and I’m feeling into the idea of starting one again.
Having recently completed some advanced training in group facilitation and trancework that’s pulled the threads of my work together in a way that feels exciting and fresh, I’m feeling into expanding the ways I do what I do. (Shop talk version: practicing secure attachment, contact nutrition, neuroaffirmation, energy and trance work. Regular language version: helping people feel better and navigate life with resilience.)
Because here’s what I know: when you’re able to take some time — say, an hour or so — to get resourced in this kind of deep way, things shift. There’s magic in being able to show up, as you are, share what you have to say, and know that nobody’s going to try to fix you, but instead, will truly see you. A place where we can feel the reciprocity of not being the only one, as well as the comfort of being accepted even within our differences, a place to recharge, and a place to practice being that more expansive, self-aware version of yourself you started doing all this personal development for in the first place. And I really want you (and me, and everyone) to experience that.
Try This:
Take a moment to notice where you might have this kind of community arising already. Maybe you and a few friends get coffee once a month. Maybe you find it when you sit around with your family shelling peas on the porch. Maybe you have a group of people you really vibe with at the farmer’s market. It doesn’t have to be formal to be nourishing.
Consider what kind of medicine you want to bring to a group like that. What resourcing might you be able to provide? And, what fills you up to be able to provide it? (Hint: the answer to this is never “nothing”. We all bring gifts to the table, and they’re always enough.)
And finally, feel into whether this kind of thing is a fit for you. That’s what I’m doing. If you get the sense you might want to explore an online group like this in the new year, email me here and let me know!
And as always, if you’d like some support, I’m here. Find out what that could look like here.
